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Being able to work on your relationship might feel like quite a modern problem, but it’s been around since time immemorial. It’s just that we’re able to be a bit more open about it these days, thanks to social media and instant connectivity – we know there are other people out there struggling with their relationship like we are, and we can follow their example to find common ground with a partner!

And that’s important. But it’s also important to be able to productively work on your relationship; it needs to be a consistent attempt at trying to improve things, and it needs input from both sides. And to help you come up with a plan to include these crucial things, here are a few steps to get you started. 

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Make Time for Each Other

First of all, make time for each other. Always have a moment to give each other throughout the day, even if it’s just five minutes before you head to bed. Simply put, this is the first step in ensuring your partner knows you want to spend more time with them. 

Always Have Something Nice to Say (or do!)

If you’re going to be productive about your relationship, and the fact that it could do with a little work, you’re going to need to come up with something nice to say or do whenever the opportunity presents itself. Complimenting your significant other on the way they look, or the good job they did at work today can be seriously uplifting statements, especially when they’re not expecting you to say something like that! 

Or even bringing home a bouquet of flowers, or a tasty and favorite snack, can help to prove you’re serious about your love for the other person. You both need to make an effort to create a more positive environment, and filling the day with little affirming moments like these is a surefire way to do just that. 

man surprising girlfriend with flowers

Talk to Someone, Together

If you find it hard to talk to one another, you can always choose to talk to someone else instead. As long as you do so together, you’re going to be working productively towards your relationship. 


But who can you talk to at a time like this? Who could you possibly turn to who would understand both your viewpoints, and make sure you both have equal screen time in a conversation about each other? Well, someone like a Sex Therapist would be a lot of use here, especially if intimacy lies at the heart of your relationship troubles. 

Don’t let yourselves gossip behind each other’s backs. That will only help to ensure your relationship goes a bit more sour, and all kinds of other people will be able to put their two cents worth in. When you’re in need of a soothing balm to be put on your relationship, this is the last thing you need! 

Use tips like these to find a productive soothe for your relationship. 

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